Those two words don’t usually go together, do they?
Most people I know avoid conflict or if they find themselves in a conflict they get mired in trying to win, fighting to come out on top. But neither of those is that satisfying, is it?When those are the options it makes sense that people would see conflict as a battle and that you’d be wise to follow the so-called wisdom to ‘choose your battles’.
So what is conflict intimacy? What is conflict collaboration?
Conflict only occurs when people care about something, when something matters to us. And intimacy- meaningful human connection- also comes from connecting around what matters to us.
In this introductory workshop, we’ll explore some foundational orientations and communication practices that can turn the stuff of conflict into the basis for healing relational ruptures, supporting learning and growth in relationships and teams, and moving towards more coherent and harmonious collaboration, coliving, or whatever kind of co calls your name.
The workshop is hosted at MOOS by Co-here, July 5, 7-10pm, Moosdorfstraße 7-9. People outside the Co-here community are very welcome- the workshop is offered in the gift economy (recommended contribution 20-80euro, but up to you).
July 5, 7-10
Workshop led by Danny Cohen:
Danny brings a rare integration of contemplative spiritual practice and wisdom traditions with trauma-informed therapeutics and practical tools for cultivating authentic human connection. His unique style opens people to radical change and transformation in everyday life and an embodied sense of new possibilities of being alive together. His work is heavily influenced by Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of NVC, by Yoram Mosenzon, his primary NVC teacher, and by contemporary mystic, Thomas Hübl. Danny also has extensive psychotherapeutic training from both the Israel Hakomi Institute and Organic Intelligence™. A graduate of The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, Danny was the founding director of Or HaLev: Center for Jewish Spirituality and Meditation, and a Guiding Teacher at Mindful Schools from 2016 to 2019. He has guided thousands of people around the world in mindfulness practices and conscious communication skills. He currently lives in Israel and is a member of the Evolve Foundation core faculty.
"Learning NVC was like learning the fine melody of the heart, it helps navigate through the delicate and precious act of two people's conflicts coming together from off key into a harmony. It is that moment of silence when you are in awe because you feel like it's not so terrible, that there is space for you, that you are understood more than you thought, that you are not alone, that you are not in survivle and that the 'other' can live in this small eco system you've built. There is room for two, there is room for more because you aren't taking away from the other nor do you contradict. Learning with Danny has helped me not to give up in situations when it felt like the other could not possibly understand. It was like watching a master paint a masterpiece which is called compassion. It's a reminder that lifes conflicts can look and feel different and can be translated into care" - Sarit Mann
from the spouse of a course participant: “Let me be a witness that she is really integrating it in a really helpful way - I’m seeing her do that with other people around us and it’s happening in my relationship with her where I feel more ease and comfort in bringing up something difficult to her because she’s responding in a way that’s working much better for me. It’s really a pretty big deal…" - Yoni Ashar, phD (clinical psychologist and neuroscientist)